Why is empathy important? What is the difference between sympathy and empathy?
Empathy is seeing the world through someone else's lens. Sympathy is just feeling sorry for them; you're not trying to understand them. Empathy is important because we all have different experiences and viewpoints. Being able to understand others' experiences will help you succeed in your classes and in the workplace. It'll help you with coworkers and clients (if you offer direct service). I want to add that empathy helps with family members and relationships of all kinds.
What are gendered norms/stereotypes? Discuss how gendered norms/stereotypes shape people's experiences and the potential harms of binary assumptions of gender.
Gendered norms or a standard or pattern of social behavior expected of a group. Stereotypes are widely held fixed or oversimplified images or ideas of a particular person or group. Gendered norms/stereotypes put people in boxes and sometimes forces them to conform to what society says they should like/do. It starts young with toys which steer boys and girls in different directors. This causes boys and girls to develop their interests and later their careers. Not all boys like things stereotypically meant for boys, and not all girls like things stereotypically meant for girls. By forcing kids into a box with what toys we give them, we can stifle their expression, interests, and careers.
My son wanted a kitchen when he was three years old. I bought him one. I did search everywhere to find one that wasn't pink (shame on me), but men grow up to be chefs too, so if he wanted to pretend to cook, he should be allowed to pretend to cook. He outgrew the kitchen and doesn't want to cook now (he turns 20 in a few weeks), but who was I to say boys don't play with kitchens.
What does it mean to be survivor-centered? What is self-care? Why is self-care important while taking this course?
Being "survivor centered" means to start any program, policy, and/or approach with survivors in mind. This means you're mindful of students who have faced victimization. I take it to mean you approach the topics with empathy and with the mindfulness that content could be triggering to students because they have experienced victimization.
Self-care is the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one's own health and to protect your well-being and happiness. I always say it's important to take care of yourself because if you don't, then you're no good to anyone else (I know the grammar is awful in that statement!). It is important to practice self-care in this course because we'll be encountering a lot of heavy content. Even if we are not survivors, the content can trigger different feelings with us. It is important to do something that brings us joy and makes us feel good, so we do not sit with the heavy content.
Optional: Self Care Plan
I wrote an e-book called 20 Self Care Tips You Haven't Tried Before. I'm going to pull out my book and choose something from it to practice self-care.
How did this module's content relate to prior courses or your own experiences? Only share what you feel comfortable sharing. Overall, what did you think of the module and interactivities this week? What were your favorite activities? What activities did you dislike or were unclear? Be specific!
The beginning of the module seemed like a repeat of the content in the Family Violence Class. It was a good refresher on empathy, self-care, and being survivor centered. It reminded me that I am in a safe place and free to share in this course. It also reminded me to take care of myself. Even though I know all about self-care and teach others about it, I often forget to pause and take care of myself.
The part of gender was some-what new to me. The second video was the best explanation I have heard of sex, gender, and orientation. When I was growing up, we used gender and sex interchangeably. If you were born a girl (your sex), then your gender was a girl and you were supposed to like all the girly things. That didn't really account for "tomboys" who were girls who just liked sports and trucks which were "boy things". As I get older, and there are new conversations and discoveries, I try to wrap my head around all these "new" definitions. It is confusing for my brain because I'm trying to reteach something that has been "truth" for 40 years. This video was so helpful, and I'm going to share it with my boyfriend because we talk about these things. We want to be respectful and use preferred pronouns and not mislabel anyone (nonbinary, transgendered, etc.), but we don't even understand it all. Thank you for providing such an informative video.
I enjoyed all the interactivities. There is not anything I disliked. Your lectures and the videos you chose were engaging and informative. I am unsure if we should be replying to our classmates on the discussion boards or if we only need to post.